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Hmmm... Life and its tumbles.

Life, sometimes it can really kick you in the arse. It seems as if no matter what I do I end up in the same situation. I swear, I am starting to believe my mom when she said that I was a bum magnet. I have been with the same man for almost 8 years now. You would think after that long things would get easier, that we would really know each other and life would be good.

Boy!! is that not true. Here I am again faced with some of the same trials and tribulations. He really isn't that bad of a guy. That is if you prefer your 42 year old males to believe that they are 17 and act like it as well.

Now, he does hold down a job, which is more than I can say for some. But, this job that he has, he has to beg and wait for his paycheck which just gets us farther and farther behind. Then when he does get it there is very little left when I get my hands on it to pay for the bills and such. I have no idea what he is doing with his paycheck, but it is extremely difficult to stretch 300 bucks over a 2 week period when you have all the utilities, groceries, phone, car payment, kids needs and all that other stuff a house hold needs. By the time I get his paycheck there is never enough to pay it all. I just thank God that our home is officially paid for.

What bothers me the most is that our relationship is nothing like what a boy/girl friend or husband/ wife relationship should be. He is hardly ever there and when he is he still isn't there. Know what I mean? He is always able to go and help this person or that person or one of his brothers with something, but he is never there to help us. Our home is falling down around our ears and our cars...oh boy... He no longer has a car and mine is the only one that runs, and its falling apart as well.

The fighting is non stop anymore. We have one child together and I have a son by a previous relationship as does he have 2 kids by a previous. My oldest son and I both suffer from ADHD and he seems to think it is just an excuse, that its not real and that my son is just being lazy and hard to get along with for the hell of it. He wont even stop and listen to me long enough for me to explain what living with the disorder is like and how rough it is on us. It is usually the main topic for our fighting.

In the past, fighting wasn't really that big of a deal. A bit of yelling and screaming, a few tears and some huffin and puffin..lol.. but three weeks ago it escalated. It has went beyond the above. I do agree that I should of been restrained ( after all, I was throwing some plastic cups, but not AT him), but he had no right to put me in a headlock and take me to the floor. I am still feeling the effects of his actions on this.

Then on the other hand, I have finally gotten reacquainted with my soul mate. We have known each other sense we were teenagers. We use to be a couple way back in the day. He is once again single and I am working on being single once again. My heart and soul longs to be with this man that knows me inside and out.

If I can ever manage to raise the funds to leave the man I am with my life and my children's lives would benefit to the max. Isn't funny how life can throw you such curve balls? I try to take one day at a time and each conflict in stride. But there comes a time in each persons life when you just have to take a step back and reevaluate what is going on.

For me, I have came to the conclusions that I no longer am in love with the man I am with. He brings me no joy or happiness. One of my children suffer from the problems with him, while the other gets to get away with whatever he wants.

This is not the life I want to lead nor the life my children and I deserve. So, now it is time to take that giant leap and make preparations to move out and move on. God be with us.

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Being Single and rules for men to go by.

(This post is from my Best Friend/ adopted Sister Penny)


I am a single mom and have been for a number of years. My question is this? Why is it men want women to be skinny and sexy. Have kids that act like sweet and nice but don't want to help rise the ones they already brought into this world. Look down they're noses if a woman is making it work by herself in fact call her gay whether she is or not.

There is men in this world that say that they aren't getting any sex.

Rules

1. Try to be nice to the women around you because we are watching to see how you act with your mom and sisters or past girlfriends. If you are a jerk why would we want you in our bed?

2. If you don't work and cant support yourself why would we want you in our homes and around our kids?

3. You (men) need support and we (women) need support.. Typically we don't get it.

4. Use your thing for something else besides pissin all over the toilet seat. DO NOT just stick it in and leave it there, learn how to move around and use it..

5. Take a bath once in awhile along with brushing your teeth.

6. Don't assume that we are stupid.. We are NOT!! We may just act that way to see how you respond.

7. We are not your mom, sister or maid.. don't expect us to act like it.

8. Don't lie to us... refer to rule number 6...

9. Use the head that is on your shoulders, sense you already have us in your bed, don't even start to think that you need another one some where else. Generally, you cant take care of us, what makes you think you can take care of another. If you are capable of taking care of more than one.. then focus more on the one at home.. we could use more....

10. Just because you.. fix her a bath, cook her a meal, give a massage or do anything else to help us out.. do not expect sex as a reward. It really makes us feel bad.

So, guys...think about this.. We are moody sensitive creatures that crave attention when we want it, not when you think we do or you do. We are like cats, don't forget it either. Use a little tact for a change. We know you can be sneaky and slick.. that's how you manage to get more than one woman in bed at a time. Try being sneaky and slick to surprise us without expecting anything in return. Eventually it will pay off. It will help keep us there and the less you expect sex... the more we will want it.

By Penny Rice who needs a little too.

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Cute little joke... Sunday Morning Sex...

SUNDAY MORNING SEX
I will never hear church bells ringing again without smiling.
Upon hearing that her elderly grandfather had just passed away, Katie went straight to her grandparents' house to visit her 95-year-old grandmother and comfort her.

When she asked how her grandfather had died, her grandmother replied, "He had a heart attack while we were making love on Sunday morning."
Horrified, Katie told her grandmother that two people nearly 100 years oldhaving sex would surely be asking for trouble.
"Oh no, my dear," replied granny. "Many years ago, realizing ouradvanced age, we figured out the best time to do it was when the churchbells would start to ring. It was just the right rhythm. Nice and slowand even. Nothing too strenuous, simply in on the Ding and out on the Dong."
She paused to wipe away a tear, and continued, "He'd still be alive ifthe ice cream truck hadn't come along."

Its a money thing

Money Lessons for Moms
The 5 things you need to know to protect your family's finances
By Teri Cettina, Baby Name Tool Data Set




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Saving Toward a College Fund Stash cash when you can't afford to fill up the car? Yes! Stow all those spare nickels here - Parenting.com
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1. Money has to be a couple thing
Why: If you or your partner gets sick, loses a job, or you divorce, you both need to know where your money is. More immediately: "Two heads are always better than one when it comes to money, even if one of you is less experienced," says Janet Bodnar, deputy editor of Kiplinger's Personal Finance magazine and author of Money Smart Women.
You've probably already agreed that one of you is responsible for the daily money management (paying bills, keeping your bank account balanced). If you're the designated family bookkeeper, you're not alone: Sixty-two percent of moms balance the family checkbook and 54 percent are responsible for paying household bills, according to a 2007 survey by Oppenheimer Funds, a New York-based asset-management company. This is fine -- either of you can take the lead on money tasks -- as long as you keep each other up-to-date on your financial picture.
What to do: It can take as little as 15 minutes a week to talk about how much you're spending and where. If nothing else, hand over the checkbook or print out a copy of your monthly budget (and how much you've spent) so you can each see where the money is going and make suggestions for change.
Julie Miller, a mom of three in Portland, Oregon, recently started having twice-a-month financial sit-downs with her husband, Dave. "We realized I was doing the majority of the household spending but my husband was managing the overall budget. I wasn't seeing the monthly bank statements or paying the bills, so I would just spend until the debit card was declined," she says. Now he lets her know when their budget is heading into the red and she fills him in on what she needs to buy.
2. Every marriage needs "ours," "yours," and "mine" accounts
Why: A joint checking account is a smart and easy way to pay for shared expenses like your mortgage, utilities, and childcare. This is true whether you and your husband pool your paychecks or each contribute a percentage of your earnings to "together" bills, or if only one of you has an income. After that, though, it's a good idea for each of you to have a small, separate account for your own, no-questions-asked spending money. This is especially important if you're a stay-at-home mom -- no one likes being on an "allowance" and having to constantly justify her spending to a working spouse.
What to do: Pay yourselves that agreed-upon personal money every pay period. Just be sure to clarify what comes out of this cash: Are haircuts and lunches with friends "personal" or family expenses? What about gifts for each other? There's no right way to do this. It's up to you, as a couple, to decide.
So if your husband can't live without those new golf clubs, no problem. And he can stop razzing you about your monthly manicures, since you're paying for them yourself. Voilà! Dozens of silly money squabbles are now history.

Im begining to think....

Im beginning to think that puberty is evil. My dear sweet 11 yr old boy is starting to turn into a butt. When he gets up of a morning, instead of letting everyone sleep, he has to wake the entire house up. What happened to kids sleeping in? I know on school days he is a pain to get out of bed. But, when there is no school.....hahahaha... hes up at the butt crack of dawn.
He has recently started going through puberty. He is so mixed up and confused about himself, his body and life in general. Why is it that puberty has to complicate everything? Why cant it be an easier transition? Why does it have to turn them into stink pots?

It seems like the older a male gets the younger they become. Women seem to grow older gracefully while men just become boys again.

I know I ask alot of questions in my ramblings... and I know most of the answers to them. It just ticks me off that it seems like everything has to be difficult...

More on men..

Wow.. they come in every shape, size, color and personality.... Personally, I love them tall, broad of shoulder, and lean. I can honestly say there is nothing wrong with my hormones.. I love to look at men, I would love to be intimate with a man, have some fun...then... he go his way and I go mine..lol.

I really dont see the point in being with a man if all you get out of it is a mess. Why should I be his garbage can? If I am not getting any satisfaction then I see no reason to be intimate with him. Does this make sense or does it just make me the ultimate bitch?

I can honestly say it has been over a year sense my man has gave me the big "O".... I do not believe in cheating in a relationship, but its getting to the point that if I dont get some gratification soon, I may well explode. Cheating is starting to sound ok.

I have never met a man that had so many problems in the bedroom with no known cause for the problems. Its crazy. Everyone has laughed about their man being a two minute man.. I dont laugh about it .. I cry about it cus its true!!! Lol..

Why cant all men be like the way the hottest male actors act? I would love to have Mathew Mconahae (I cant spell his last name.lol) or Vin Diesel... MMMmm... lol..

Why cant I seem to get away from being a bum magnet? I know there are probably a few decent men left out there that arent gay or already married.. They just dont seem to be in rurual
Missouri..lol

Men!!

They say you cant live with them and you cant live without them. Let me tell you. I would much rather live with out one. I have yet to come across a decent hard working, honest, responisble man. I honestly do not think that they exsist!
Why is it they all think that the woman has to be the one to do it all I ask?? They seem to think that we should have to do ALL of the cleaning, child rearing, yard work, mechanic work, laundry and so on.. PLUS we should bring home the bacon and cook it to!!
Its like they believe that they are ment to sit on there arses and do nothing, while we wait on them hand and foot. Be there when they need relieved sexually and then leave them alone till the next thing they need.
What is the point of having a man if we have to do everything all by ourselves? When we are sick, who takes care of us? When we need a shoulder, where is theres for us to cry on? When we have sexual needs, where are they to satisfy it?? They are never there when WE need it!!
What I dont understand is what happened to a relationship being two sided? Sharing the responsibilities? Taking care of each others wants and needs? Where did all of that go?



So, that being said, I am at a lose for words now. Im sure it wont be long before my man pisses me off again in some way or fashion and then I shall return to vent about it!